‘Either break up, or leave me alone’: Pregnant woman’s father dates younger woman who wants children, he refuses so she tries to live vicariously through her, she puts boundaries

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    AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend to either break up or leave me alone?

    "She wants to spend as much time as possible with my child"
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    For context, my father is dating a younger woman who openly wants to have kids. He has three adult children and, also openly, doesn't want more. Some time
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    ago, they decided to wait a few years to see if either of them would change their minds about. it, otherwise they'd break up. I told my father it was a bad idea, but he didn't care.
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    I'm pregnant. This will be my and my husband's first baby, as well as the first grandchild on both sides, so we're all very excited.
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    But my father's girlfriend has been extremely over-the-top. She takes every shot she can to try to get "involved" in my pregnancy.
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    To give a few examples, she calls me almost every day with name suggestions or "parenting tips." Anytime I tell her and my father
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    about something I'm planning for my baby, she feels the need to explain what she'd do or buy instead. She frequently asks me whether I'm having a boy or a
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    girl, because apparently she has different shopping lists for both (we know the and name, but
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    won't announce either until the baby is here). She has asked whether she can attend one of my ultrasounds to "see what it's like."
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    Dealing with her has been very overwhelming. Even if she is just being caring, we were never even remotely close before my pregnancy, so she's been making me very uncomfortable.
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    On Saturday, I stopped by my father's place to pick up some of my old stuff. When I got there, he was having an argument with his girlfriend. They said it had to do
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    with my baby, so they explained it to me: my father's girlfriend wanted him to turn either the guest bedroom or the home office into a nursery, to make it
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    easier for them to babysit my child. My father didn't want to get rid of either.
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    I tried to be polite about it at first. I told them I wasn't planning on having them babysit, and I probably wouldn't use their hypothetical nursery when there
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    was a perfectly good one in my place. But my father's girlfriend said they had been waiting so long for there to finally be a baby
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    in the family, and she wanted to "spend as much time as possible” with my child.
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    That's when I lost my patience. I said I understood they disagreed on having a baby, but that it wasn't my problem. So I told
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    them to either break up or leave me alone, because I'm done dealing with this.
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    The next day, my father called me. He said he understood I was frustrated and agreed that he agreed his girlfriend has been going too far, but argued that
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    she's just excited and trying to help me, and I'm being ride to her for denying it so firmly. He's especially upset about what I said
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    because his relationship is none of my business, and I had no right to comment on it.
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    My husband's on my side, and so is my brother. My sister is pretty neutral. The more I think about it, the more mixed my feelings on this get. AITA?
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